must hit their child when they discipline. Right? Well, it is illegal for a parent,
teacher, a guardian or anyone to hit a child in 47 nations and a forbidden
punishment in institutes in 124 countries. Yet all over the world, people think
punishment is necessary as long as it’s not severe and, unfortunately, even
your children makes them think it’s right and OK. Parents are physically bigger
and stronger than children. They are smarter because their brain and body are
fully developed unlike a child’s. When a parent tries to hit their own child to
make them behave better, the parent is basically telling them that hitting
someone who is weaker or smaller than you is an acceptable way to get them to
do anything. Could this be why children bully smaller children or grow up to
abuse their wives?
adults get frustrated easily or get stressed from work, family, relationships
etc. so hitting your child who has been getting on your nerves, will get you to
experience immense relief, which drives you to hit more or harder. Punishment
will always turn to abuse. Once you begin to punish your child lightly, where
do you stop? For an example, your child reaches your valuable things, you tap
his hand so he can stop touching it, he reaches again and this time you spank
his hand lightly, he reaches it again and you hit harder. You’ve now started a
cycle to always hit your child harder, the issues then are about who’s
stronger, your child’s will to touch it or your punishment not your valuable
stuff anymore. The danger of punishment is when a child disobeys, you may feel
like you have to hit harder until he’s so sore he can’t disobey anymore. Your
hand becomes a fist, your folded newspaper becomes a belt, now what once was
just an innocent tap becomes child abuse.
your child distracts the child from learning to resolve the conflict in a
proper way because they get overwhelmed with feelings of anger and dreams of
revenge, losing the opportunity to learn how to resolve it, making a punished
child difficult to handle related event in the future. Even though children
don’t think properly like adults, they can still sense unfairness in this word.
Punishing your child will create a very angry child, therefore, making them
rebel and feel humiliated.
affects the bond between parents and children as we cannot feel love towards
someone who hurt us. It only gives you good behaviour from fear but not love or
care. If your child grew up in a very loving caring home but got spanked once
or twice, your child won’t remember any specific happy scenes in vivid detail,
unlike the spanking scenes. It’s fascinating how one negative memory can block
out so many positive memories. Punishing your child affects you too! Once a
mother quoted, after spanking her child, “I won the battle. But lost the war”
This suggests that she got her child to do whatever she wants however her child
now fears her; she now lost her child.